He holds me, hugs me, kisses me. Looks at me like a guy who really likes me or may even have started to love me would look. <<< Or ... looks at you like a guy that wants to have MORE hot steamy sex. That is all. Eventually boyfriend gets irritated with thought of me and gorgeous guy ever being together <<< Which you are indeed doing asked if I was still with my BF.

I told him he didn't have to be so mean, <<< As apposed to the oh so great kindness & understanding you're showing by running around on the BF you supposedly love? What am I supposed to think? <<< You're all too young & immature to be dating (online dating with Match.com) or having sex. None of you know how to respect others, treat them well, behave honorably or maintain boundaries. Stop all dating (online dating with Match.com) & get away from both of them, until you can date using Match.com one person at a time & consider their feelings as important as your own. If you want to date using Match.com around, be upfront about it & don't call one the BF that you "really love" while keeping a guy on the side for entertaining sex.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha..

I'm turning 30 in 3 months. I'm very much mature, just confused. There's a big difference. And the text I received was from gorgeous guy> Here's a screw, cause you're not worth the F**K. Why would he say that? That's what I'm wondering. Thank you for your reply anyhow...

Your numerical age has nothing to do with it. Mature people who care about the feelings of others & not just their own good times, would break up with a BF before they would cheat on him. ~~~ To hurt you. He didn't respect you. You were willing to sneak around behind a BF's back, with his supposed "friend" & get your rocks off. That's not Quality.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha..

I was pointing out my age because you replied that I or "we" are all too young. As far as maturity is concerened, it doesn't matter how mature you are or not to be confused and not understand the right thing to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 14 years now. We were very forgiving to each other when I found out he cheated on me during a time of our relationship (thru Match.com) where we were unable to recognize that we needed to take some time to "sow our wild oats". Instead we tried to stay together, and it didn't work out. We still saw each other, but he strayed, I found out, I strayed, and he just happened to be friends with the guy I hooked up with.

But like I said, we didn't recognize (BOTH OF US) when we should have, to just go have some fun, and try to continue the relationship (thru Match.com) later if we felt the desire to do so. Instead, time passed and wounds healed and it's been amazing for the last 7 1/2 years. We have learned trust, and what it means to really work at a relationship. My BF decided to forgive the guy and when he ran into him a short while ago, it was back to the old times. But for me, I still look at him like I used to.

As a matter of fact, the same feelings came rushing back. But I am VERY much in love with my BF. I told my BF before we even went to the guys house that I don't want this to interfere with our relationship. That we've got it so good, and we don't need this stuff creeping back in with the potential to ruin everything. MY BF assured me that he's past all that and that he misses the dude, they were good friends irregardless of what happend in the past.

But I can't help the way I will always feel about Gorgeous Guy...

Unless all three of you openly agree that you will see each other/sleep with each other, then of course it is wrong to cheat on your boyfriend.  If you have feelings for someone else, then you shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship (thru Match.com) with someone else because it's not fair to them..

If you're cheating multiple times on your boyfriend, you dont really love him. If you truly love someone, you will be loyal and faithful to them-not lying, deceptive and hurting them by being with someone else. .

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I agree mostly with tulips' opinion, but differ on the feelings aspect. Whether it was love or lust, over your time of separation your mind has dulled the bad and only left you with the great feelings the friend gave you rather than the guilt and pain it caused your relationship. If you are seriously back with your b/f then I would recommend staying right away from him. Make excuses to not hang out or find your own friend (how about a girl?) and do things. Why would you start this roller coaster ride again when the guy so nastily disrespected you? Good luck...

Thank you. A reply that actually makes sense. I don't really want to start that over again. I guess I just really needed to understand why he would have said that to me and now pretends everything is fine. It must just be for the sake of his and my boyfriend's friendship. So my answer is for the sake of my relationship (thru Match.com) with my boyfriend, I should just let it go and remember that he treated me like a jerk, regardless of the fact that we were both sneaking around by my guys back.

Thanks again...

Youre right in the fact that your b/f probably misses "gorgeous guy" as a friend. I think every man has one friend that the g/f or wife cant stand but is in the social circle. Just hang in there and do your best to keep your self respect and relationship (thru Match.com) on the right track You made mistakes and learnt from them so no need to torture yourself. Move on and make better choices this time around. I wish you happiness...

Wow. What a tangled web we weave...LOL! First that was a very crazy story...what I know about guys is that they will jump through hoops to get some. The thing is though that maintaining a strictly sexual relationship (thru Match.com) is much more complicated than having a boyfriend. And also guys will usually be very quick to decide whether a fling is worth messing up their "boyhood" for. You know it's hard to believe but most guys are pretty loyal to other guys if they consider them "good" friends. Plus guys are usually gonna be totally over the DRAMA and will steer clear if it means stopping it from escalating.

Your probably better off looking elsewhere girl, or working it out with your current squeeze, whatever you decide, keep it simple...Peace, love and laughter.-Sandy..

You're lucky someone didnt end up pregnant with all of the back and forth going on, or worse, an incurable std..

If you were telling a friend what to do, wouldn't you want her to be in a healthy relationship, not going behind someone's back, hurting or lying to someone. .

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WoW!  Why didn't you break it off when you found out your boyfriend cheated?  I would never take a man back for that... but you are a cheater too, so there are no rules.... you've made your bed, now karma is coming back to bite you!.

Forget about the men... both of them. Neither are good for you and vice versa...  you need to work on yourself now, buiding your self respect and self esteem, which it doesn't sound like you have a lot of..

Good luck!  ..