Here's my answer to your question: Anyone using Match.com from Mexico?.
Call him and tell him you are so sorry and totally regret saying and doing what you did. Thenm it is a wait and see. Dont go into why just say sorry!!!!..
Yeah, I need to get back in touch w/ him. This is eating at me & I need to apologize to move forward. Do you think what he posted on Facebook was about me or her?..
It doesnt matter who it's about. Just say sorry...
I agree it doesn't matter who it's about. If I had to guess, I'd say it's probably about the girl who recently left his life. I would think it's erroneous (and probably not worth your time) to guess at the content of his messages, or the depth of their relationship, or the cause of their breakup.Can I ask, honestly, if you really like this guy, or is there a possibility that you liked his attention and miss his attempts to win you over? That's a normal way to feel. I just want you to make sure you know why you feel the way you do about this guy. Could it be that you miss his friendship more than anything?I agree that if you decide this guy really has what you're looking for and you have feelings for him, let him know, apologize for the past, and tell him you're interested...
I first and foremost miss the friendship. He was one of my closest friends & I always have a blast when we're hanging out. I actually did send him an email & he called me & we talked a bit. I'm taking it one step at a time. If we're just friends, that's fine. I'd be happy with that.
I'm content right now...
So I wanted to post an update to how things are going so far. I sent him an email of apology & he got back in touch w/ me w/in a day saying he's so glad to hear from me, he's glad I want to be friends again, & that we need to hang out. OK, so that's all well & good. Since that time (about 3 wks ago) he asked me to hang out several times (I was playing hard to get b/c I wanted to show him I have a life, so I only hung out w/ him once.) We've been texting & IMing a lot lately, too. When we're together, I can kinda tell by his actions that he's still attracted to me, but that he's holding back. I think he's trying to gauge my actions.
The weird thing is when I asked him where she worked he said he couldn't remember. And that same night he took off to visit his family in a different state as opposed to consoling his newly unemployed girlfriend. Stuff just doesn't add up. Do you think he's trying to make me jealous & gauge whether I want to be friends or more, or is he casually trying to hint that he just wants to be friends? It's just so weird b/c he was so meloncholy while I was gone (I could tell by his Facebook postings) & now that I'm back, he's back to his happy-go-lucky self. If it matters, his Facebook profile still says single. (see original posting for what led up to this.)..
So I wanted to post an update to how things are going so far. I sent him an email of apology & he got back in touch w/ me w/in a day saying he's so glad to hear from me, he's glad I want to be friends again, & that we need to hang out. OK, so that's all well & good. Since that time (about 3 wks ago) he asked me to hang out several times (I was playing hard to get b/c I wanted to show him I have a life, so I only hung out w/ him once.) We've been texting & IMing a lot lately, too. When we were together this past time & when we're on the phone, I can kinda tell by his actions/voice that he's still attracted to me, but that he's holding back. I think he's trying to gauge my actions.
The weird thing is when I asked him where she worked he said he couldn't remember (he remembers just about everything I tell him). And that same night he took off to visit his family in a different state as opposed to consoling his newly unemployed girlfriend. Stuff just doesn't add up. Do you think he's trying to make me jealous & gauge whether I want to be friends or be more, or is he casually trying to hint that he just wants to be friends? It's just so weird b/c he was so meloncholy while I was gone (I could tell by his Facebook postings) & now that I'm back, he's back to his happy-go-lucky self. If it matters, his Facebook profile still says single. (see original posting for what led up to this.)..
Yes don't go into all the details. Just communicate how you feel and see what happens.
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Might as well give up since you have to "play games" to get his attention. Games have no place in a mature, happy relationship.Purposely not answering his calls, ignoring him says to me you are testing him, which is not good to have in a relationship. A relationship (thru Match.com) such has this is built on basically "lies".Most guys if they are really interested in you, you don't have to question their actions. And if he is trying to "test" the waters with you then why would you want someone that is that "wishy washy" for a relationship?..
