Your question was: Can someone view your match.com profile and NOT show up on the who viewed me list?.
I dont like to play games either. Why? What is it that people hope to achieve by doing so? Because they dont create relationships - they create the illusion that they want to establish a relationship (thru Match.com) when they really just want to go for the kill - they want to *win* something..
There are some people who may sense that the guy or woman is not all that interested at the onset...so they think that if the create some tension or some drama or excitement then they can get the object of their affection interested in them. I never understood that approach. All you do is end up with someone who is drawn to the chase instead of you or drawn to the idea of satisfying their ego...
"All you do is end up with someone who is drawn to the chase instead of you or drawn to the idea of satisfying their ego". > This is a lockdown truth!.
Snafu, this is the best thing I've ever read, really really. You are awesome!..
Thanks blairbear, I hope things are going better for you with that ex of yours...
Thanks Snafu. It'll get easier everyday, I know. The crappy part is I had mailed him a sort-of gift a couple of days before I decided to let him go, which he will probably receive next week. Argh. Oh well. Doesnt matter, doesnt change anything. I mean, it sucks for him because he'll find out soon enough that the thing is sort of void or cancelled out by the fact that I don't want a relationship (thru Match.com) with him anymore - oops! haha. But obviously my effort is awesome and his just sucks. That's really one of the main reasons I don't want to talk to him anymore. ..
He may call you when he gets his gift, so you'll have to be strong during that call. I know it has to suck walking away from such strong feelings but you know you need to be with someone who reciprocates your efforts...
Yah, it was this thing I've had a for a while for him so I decided to send it. But your so right snafu. And I will make sure to come here and read our posts to resist saying anything back! Although I know I wont, I think Ill be ok : ) The thing is, is it's not like he is horrible. I mean, he can be really arrogant and he is doing the going back and forth thing so he doesn't know what he wants.. but the main thing is his efforts are **just not good enough**, for me anyways. And I know what I want and he's not giving it to me so there's not much else to go on from there. ..
No, you do not play games but you DO have a life and that is attractive to guys. Meaning you are not just sitting by the phone waiting for him to call and because you have a life with work, friends and family you make other plans and DO other things like working out, taking classes, working late, etc. So if you are not available to a guy when he calls, you're not available. That's not playing games. .
" I mean, he can be really arrogant and he is doing the going back and forth thing so he doesn't know what he wants.. but the main thing is his efforts are **just not good enough**".
His efforts are not to your liking because he is going back and forth in his mind about dating. The back and forth thing is very tormenting emotionally and you are so much better off with a guy who *knows* he wants to date using Match.com you. Hang in there...
Good disscussion topic!!.
I don't think we should play games either. I also think that we don't play our hand totally all at once. We can overwhelm our date, scare him off, and get hurt. Especially when we are in that infatuation stage - we "feel" so in love, when we haven't made up our minds yet..
I think when a relationship (thru Match.com) first starts it's not that you want to play games, you want to be who you are always, it's just that you don't want to act overly interested, dont keep all your weekends open, etc. Just in a way to make it seem you're a busy person with friends and a life and wouldn't he be fortunate to be a part of it. You don't want him to feel you're needy and want to make him your whole life and you dont want that to be the case anyway!.