Your question was: Do you like Match.com?.

After the fling are you still going to use him as your trainer. That can get- pardon the pun - touchy.  It's probably not in his best interest to get it on with a paying customer. You can have a conversation, does he have a girlfriend, how does she feel about him having such hands-on work, etc.

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Why is it so important to you to make sure he's turned on by you.

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Well I only have a few more weeks left training with him. so after that, I think it would be fair game.in regards to, whether or not he is turned on by me - that matters quite greatly! being attracted to someone is not all that important when it comes to having sexual relations with them. being turned on is a very key factor in have a GREAT sexual relationship (thru Match.com) with them. that is what I want. i'm not concerned about my attractiveness... more about projecting sexual appeal and creating lust from my interest. is this not what all women want from the opposite sex?..

<<being attracted to someone is not all that important when it comes to having sexual relations with them. being turned on is a very key factor in have a GREAT sexual relationship (thru Match.com) with them. that is what I want. >>.

I find this comment a bit silly.  You will be more turned on my someone you are attracted to and vice versa.  Attraction IS important when it comes to having sexual relations.  Otherwise people would be much less discriminating with whom they get it on.  Most people are NOT and won't have sex with someone they don't find at least somewhat attractive..

<<more about projecting sexual appeal and creating lust from my interest. is this not what all women want from the opposite sex?>>.

Nope, not me.  I've had casual, more sexual relationships before and they usually wind up making me feel cheap.  I have often been told I'm sexy and all that, but I do not want a purely sexual relationship (thru Match.com) and I think probably about 90% of women (maybe more) do not want to be thought of as a sexual object..

If all you're after is a quick fling, wait until after he is no longer your trainer and go for it.  But don't put his job in jeopardy just because you want sex from him..

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Let me clarify what I mean by "attraction" and being "turned on".being attractive and finding a person attractive does not necessarily result in wanting to be with them. i've met tons of physically attractive ppl, but I don't get turned on by them.when I refer to being "turned on" you are interested in that person sexually for whatever reason it may be... (physical or not)as for women not wanting to be viewed as sexual attractive - I find that very hard to believe. you may not want to be hit on my your boss or male co-workers, but to say you don't want to be viewed as sexually alluring is hard to grasp. everyone wants to be desired. it's human nature...

I'm surprised that many think i'm some sort of trouble maker for wanting to pursue something sexual with him.i am not jeopardizing his job. if he was so concerned about being professional, he would not ask me to kiss him on the cheek or make sexual comments and jokes as he is stretching me out. I think the whole professional trainer/client relationship (thru Match.com) is out the window. what is wrong with wanting to have sexual relations with ppl? it is not something for everyone, but surely it is not something to be ashamed of or feel cheap over. last I checked, I thought it was ok for women to be as sexual as men. yet, I notice quite some disapproval at the woman pursuing this...

Not personally my thing, but no disapproval from me...

Also, I didnt think about the whole job thing at all as most personal trainers I thought were self-employed so they can do whatever they want.  I guess some people work for the gym, but I thought most work for themselves....

My only comment is to consider the serious health risks involved...

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I agree, working out is like dancing, a turn-on but that doesn't mean it should go anywhere else but the gym floor. Again why is it so important to you that he's turned on by you?.

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