Your question was: Does Hot Match.com really work and if so are there others?.

If you keep suggesting that he visit and he genuinely can't come, consider trying to go and visit him. However, if you suggest it and he is busy but makes no mention of any future visits, I'd let it go...

"I go out and meet alot of other guys, but for some reason this guy has always been in the back of my mind, yet we live in seperate countries and need passports to visit each other. Anyone been in this situation before and has any advice? ".

I see things in pretty simplistic terms - either you want it or you dont want it.  If you wanted this guy bad enough then your actions would have demonstrated that. Yeah, he is a thought in the back of your mind...not in the front of your mind...where it counts. Trust me...I have been on the receiving end of situations like this and I can tell the difference in a man's behavior when I'm in the back or front of his mind and when I'm in the back of his mind...I know he doesnt want me bad enough...

That's a very good point...the point that you made about him being in the back of my mind. however, I dont see him booking a flight to come see me either. yet, he keeps asking me to go visit him...i dont even know if it's worth exploring...i keep changing my mind, it comes and then it goes...but I do wonder about how things would be if he lived here. at least we would be able to explore the possibilities...i guess I can always book a flight and explore his city, and the bonus is seeing him...

Perhaps part of the reason this guy is sticking with you is the 'romance' between you has the romeo/juliet, hardship air to it that makes our heart sag and soar..

Long distance relationships are possible but it sounds like it's more a friendship. He has made it clear that his life in Canada is his priority and making time for a visit at least at this time isn't possible. So if keeping in touch with him keeps the fantasy and hope alive too much, then perhaps lessen contact.

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