Your question was: Has anyone ever had any luck by using match.com or e-harmony .com?.

Search for a cute and appropriate card and make "fake" vouchers for a movie/dinner/whatever together with cardboard and markers. ..

Since you are not sure if you are going to be together after his birthday, I'd say a card would be nice.  If you felt like adding something to the card you can give him a gift card at a store where you know he shops.  Or, if he has a favorite sports team and likes to collect their memorabilia you can get him a t-shirt or tank top with his team's logo...

Well, you not being sure if you will be together makes this hard!!  Is this because of your decision, mutual decision, or his decision?.

But for a genaric answer, since he has to travel to see you, I'd think of something to do while traveling.  A hand held video game, sudoku book, word search, a deck of cards.  Or even a little mix of it all.  Not too personal, but still practical..

Aren't the first bday or any holiday hard!!.

Good Luck,.

 .

           ..

Thank you all! Yes it is very hard 1) because it's the first bday and 2) I am not certain if we will be together for very long. The decision may be mine as I am having a hard time trusting him because of his past. I almost feel like not sending him any gift, just a card and just telling him he will get his present when I see him. I got him the shirt but sending it might be expensive...do you ladies think that might be a good solution to this?..

The card and getting his gift when you see him next is a great idea.  Especially if you're not sure about everything.

 .

Good Luck.

 .

           ..

2.5 months ... long-distance ... a nice card with a handwritten note inside is completely appropriate.  In fact, a gift would probably be inappropriate.  When you do see him, take him out for a nice dinner (I've never met a guy that doesn't like a nice meal!).

Think of it this way ... if you don't know what to get him, then ... you don't know him.   And I mean no disrespect in that ...but, this is the challenge of long-distance ... you cannot REALLY KNOW a person because you don't interact in each other's lives. ..

Yeah I dont know him very well...and I know he'd appreciate the shirt, I am just not willing to put that kind of money (sending it overseas it also very expensive) into it knowing we might not make it past his birthday. I have some doubts about him (like him not being comfortable that his friends on know he has a girlfriend, shady eh?) and whether he really is commited to trying to make it work. So the card it is and will write that he'll get his gift once I come visit...

How expensive is a nice shirt or sweater or a tie or  book or cool wallet... If you really dont want to spend any money maybe you really dont want to be with this guy  - if you do a gift certificate , especially over the internet, then it's really simple, no mailing involved.. good luck.

,..