Before we started having sex I asked him to get tested and he did without any hesitation and everything came back negative. His last real relationship (thru Match.com) lasted 3 years and was almost 4 years ago. He did inform me that he always used condoms after that..

He didn't say no to us using them, I guess it's partly my fault cause in the moment I don't tell him...

Bubbly101, the road you're on is one called "Single Motherhood". This guy doesn't know you well enough to be your boyfriend, yet every time you have unprotected sex with him, you're choosing him to father your child...

Your right I think It's time we had little discussion about the subject. Although we do use the "do not come inside of me method" I'm pretty sure it's not as effective as we would like it to be. Being a single mom isn't something I aspire to be and I know how hard it can be. I used to think that my head was screwed on tight and that I could make responsible decisions but it seems that around him I become a complete nincompoop..

Thank you for making me see some sense!!.

Edited 10/19/2009 4:13 pm ET by bubbly101..

Please look after yourself, bubbly101... Remember that as women, we suffer the greatest consequences of sexual mistakes and we need to be really careful with who, when, and how we do it. I hope your discussion goes well...

If he was just browsing and you are looking for a long term relationship...how is that the same thing that you are looking for. And if you are looking for the same thing you should know what his expectations are?? Shouldnt you??? And for gods sakes use some form of birth control. getting preggers is not a good way to start off a long term id that is where this is heading..

After a long discussion we both got a better understanding of each other and certain things were clarified. We are officially a couple and are using protection!!! And we are also planning on moving in together..

It seems that men and women really do view the same things differently. If I'd had the courage to speak up before I would probably not be here right now. He had told me he was getting to know me at the beginning of our relationship (thru Match.com) but for him it had evolved into more and he thought we were official (especially since he introduced me to his family), while I was waiting for an official announcement.

We are working on making our relationship (thru Match.com) a lasting one and are planning for a future together..

Thanks undercover crab!!..