"My question is, should I contact him? How many days is the usual "call back" after a great night out? ".
If it were me, no I wouldn't contact him, you made it clear that you would be willing to go out again, the ball is in his court now. There is no usual, for me a week or longer isn't a stretch, because he has other things going on in his life...as I hope you would. Could be any number of things, work, family, probably dating (online dating with Match.com) other people, possible gf/wife...you don't know him well enough yet to know if anything he told you is true. .
Maybe he thought he would get lucky (not saying this is what he thought as I said could be any number of reasons), after all you barely talked with each other before deciding on a date using Match.com that very same night (If someone actually asked me on a date using Match.com 3 hrs after talking with them online, that would be a little scary not to mention desperate) but that is just me..
With OLD you will have to grow a thick skin, and take things they tell you "my mother would love you" with a huge grain of salt, until you actually get to know them..
Just relax for now, continue on just like before you went on the date, if he is interested he will let you know...
Thank you for your response. I know what you mean about deciding to meet up too soon. It's obvious that he is dating (online dating with Match.com) other people since he is in a dating (online dating with Match.com) site. Like I said, I am a neophyte in the OLD thing so I guess I have more to learn. I am browsing through the discussions here and it helped a bit. It's scary putting yourself out there. I am in no rush to start something right away anyway. I guess I just need to relax and take everything in stride. .
You will learn as you go along. It is different than "regular" dating, and you will need to grow a thick skin, but you will do fine. Always be safe, always meet them in a public place, I never let them pick me up at my house the first few times, I always meet them somewhere. .
Have you tried the OLD board here at ivillage? There is some good advice over there...
No, no, no!!! Whatever you do, please do not contact him... welcome to the world of on-line dating... perhaps someone else has come along that interested him more. Move along, and keep dating (online dating with Match.com) other people, lots of people..
On line dating (online dating with Match.com) requires really thick skin... it's brutal... I was doing it for a while, and just couldn't handle it. I'm much happier on my own..
Good luck... but IMO, if a guy is really interested, he won't let you get away. He will call, he will pursue. It sounds like "he's just not that into you"..
Move on from him already..