Your right there must be some differences, but to be truthful I'm still fairly in the dark about his past relationship. I've only discovered the similarities as I've gone along. As long as I'm being honest my own mind is my worst enemy. I'd rather have it all out on the table, good and bad, than live with the mystery. I love him and we have future plans of marriage and family but it's hard to go forth with that if I'm left to wonder about his past. The past is a part of who he is and I can move past the details, I just need to put my own questions to rest. .

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Hi brewergirl02,.

Glad to have you on the board!.

Sorry I'm jumping in late here, but I some how missed your post..

You said these are your "own questions".  unless he gives  you reason to be insecure, I'd look inward to see what's happening.  She is an ex for a reason.  And his family doesn't really matter.  I know they can make things confussing, but when it comes right down to it, it is your and your guys decision to be together..

Good luck,.

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Most people have past relationships that's just how it is.  Forget about his ex girlfriend and just be happy. ..

Wow, you could be playing with a double edged sword here.  Yes, the past has made him who he is today.  But the only person who is experiencing who he is today...is YOU, not them..

I wouldnt see it as a mystery.  I never have.  I find peace in not knowing those details because those details could whirl around in my mind and interfere with the relationship.  What if you find yourself in that same situation?..