Your question was: I just filed for divorce from my husband... I met him on Match.com. Would you marry someone you met .

"looking more than I thought was a glance ".

If that is true then, of course you are going to be upset. That would be rude and inconsiderate behavior. I'm sure if the situation was reversed he would be peeved too.  Men tend to operate within given rules and parameters or codes of friendships with other men - also in their sporting games. when they dont live by those codes..things can get ugly and lines get crossed.  If you feel your bf commited a "foul" then he needs to be told that the way that you and he stay respectful towards each other is by living by a set of codes..

Your soon to be ex husband was extremely abusive to you - calling you ugly and saying that you are useless.  Have you received any counseling to help you overcome the damage?  If not, then maybe it would help in starting your new life with your current bf...

Sorry my dear but this relationship (thru Match.com) will not work out and here is why.  You are definitely not ready for dating, let a lone a relationship.  You are not even divorced yet.  You have a lot of grieving and healing to do.  You are already carrying all the baggage from your marriage into this new relationship.  You need to stop seeing him, dont even date.  You need to get your self esteem back, get to know you and what you want, take care of your child, get yourself on track, and go through the whole process.  If you dont you will have an endless stream of broken relationships and will be wondering why.  This process usually takes at least a year or more, could be more for you since your marriage was abusive..

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My next door neighbor.

Wants to ban all guns.

THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.

Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.

Them with my guns..

Well I'm gonna disagree with the other posts..

A HUGE WELL DONE YOU!!!!! For getting out of that destructive relationship (thru Match.com) - that takes a lot of guts..

The guy you are with now, sounds lovely.  I suspect that even a glance for a second would seem like too long for you - you have been programmed by your ex to react to ANY kind of glancing..

Models are models for a reason, it's their job to look fantastic.  If they don't do their job, they are fired.  Your b/f, who I'm am 1,000% sure loves you for who you are, is a human being.  I mean, even I look at a pretty girl if I see one and think to myself 'she's lovely' and I'm a girl..

I think you are a lovely person who has been treated appaulingly by your ex.  Therefore, I really think some counselling for yourself will help you to put the past where it is and will also help you to understand that your ex was full of Bull Sh*t. .

Him saying you were fat and ugly was lies.  You need help I think to accept that..

Then you will be able to believe your guy when he tells you that you are all he wants - I believe him!.

Good luck and enjoy being togetherGoldie..

IMO I agree with the majority here , I was in a an abusive relationship (thru Match.com) as wellI was according to him the Mayor of Obese City ( I'm slighty over weight ) which is funny I wasnt when I met him I was useless and everything was my fault He even said no one else would want me that I was lucky to have him !! , anyway this went on for 8 years I finally left him about a year agoI had the same insecurities as you until I sought professional helpYou need it , a year later I'm healthy, losing wieght and am able to step into a healthy relationship (thru Match.com) without taking the baggage with me. Pls for your sake seek help it will make a world of diffrence and you'll project a better you that will make you feel awesome !!.

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