One of the main reasons that texting is a immature, poor way to communicate with someone about something other than,"running late" "call me" etc.....
It doesn't sound like he is all that into this situation that you two have, you are not in a serious committed relationship, you have only known each other a couple months, you only get together once a week because of his traveling, you have sex with him, nothing more than that... You are not a priority in his life right now and he shouldn't be one in yours....Until you both talk and agree on what kind of relationship (thru Match.com) you both want and that takes in person time..
He feels the way he does and unless he is willing to talk to you about it, there is absolutely nothing you can do to change his mind, and it does sound like you might have been a booty call to him, or he might be seeing other people which is his right to do unless you agreed to be exclusive..
Let this go, get on with your life just like before he came into it, do you really think all this is worth it at this early stage? Most people are on their best behavior the first few months, if this is his best behavior I don't know if I would want to see his worst...
What a putz!! You need this like you need a hole in the headI say, NEXT!!!.
Sheri..
We did have "the talk" and he said that we were in a monogomous relationship!!! Otherwise I would not have continued sleeping him him. I should have added that I see him on Friday or Saturday nights as well as midweek. We would go to dinner and a movie or meet up with friends for a drink. As I write this however I am realizing it was not much of a realtionship. UGH!..
No it really isn't.... You deserve better than this.....
Good luck..
He feels like you were using him for sex?! Whatever! That sounds like a lame excuse for this guy to get off the hook. And how were you supposed to know he was with his daughter? We are not mind readers. I say just sit back and wait to see what happens. You are right since you were the last one to text/call. If you hear back from him now you will probally feel uncomfortable in the future since he can't handle a woman who is straight forward. Which itseems is less than he can say for himself. ..
He wants to relax? He is being used for sex? Is he related to the Bob I was married to? .
Oldnewbie, there are plenty of men out there who would gladly let you USE them for sex...hehe. Drop this lame guy...
You know it sounds like he had a good old fashioned freak out!!!!! This is usually a females war cry senario, but he did a role reversal on you. I wouldn't waste my time on him either. He could have communicated his fears with you. you are both adults. And to have sex when the two of you are together isn't all that strange. Sounds like the two of you don't get a ton of alone time. Let him come back to you. Only if you want to..
Good Luck,.
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If he does try to come back, show him the door. Based on what you say it's not clear what happened with him. The most important thing for you to know is that it's HIM and his issues. If he's going to freak over, essentially, nothing, and he won't bother to communicate, he's definitely not cut-out for a relationship (thru Match.com) (where communication and not freaking out is important). Cut your losses and forget about him...
