If you feel it's to soon ...its to soon...

Thanks for your reply.  Yes, I should trust my feelings and my instincts.  I didn't listen to them in the past and that is why I am separated.  I gotta learn to listen to my inner self..

Thanks!.

Maggie..

Being separated is the first issue that struck me. You are still married. How does that play out with you?Secondly, I agree. Dont second guess your feelings. Someone else cannot tell you how you should feel about a certain situation. This is what defines you as a person.

You don't like moving fast, he is moving faster than you like. I agree you should let him know. His response will tell you a lot about the man you are dating. Thirdly, you may want to consider that perhaps your married state may have sent a mixed message to him, being that you don't mind complications. Could it be that you may have moved too fast on your own, by being involved with someone new before your old relationship (thru Match.com) was taken care of? He may view your no as other than firm and may think that he already has you, since your actions here have told him alot about your real values..

Ah, you are so right, because here I am 4 to 5 months later, and he claims he is a "friend with all the priviledges"  Why didn't I listen to my inner self (and you).  I feel like he was stringing me on.  In the beginning, he was saying, Oh, I have so much feelings for you, but that died out very quickly when he was getting what he wanted.  How do you tell early on if they are speaking the truth?  I guess I need to read them better and not have sex until much later, is the lesson to be learned for me..

Thanks,Nancy..