Your question was: Match.com advice please?.

Hi Zygo08.

Welcome to the board!.

This is a tough one.  There is something to be said for taking the high road and then there is the safety of the other women.  Kudos to you for being strong and a smart online dater.

My ex husband had an affair and never told me.  Little did he know that I knew.  I could have had both of their carriers ruined.  I decided against this and I do not regret my decision.  Revenge is so strong and so dangerous. .

If you feel in any way that you are taking revenge, then you should rethink.  Be sure your motives are truly what you think..

Good Luck,.

Kristie.

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Hi Kristie,.

Thank you for your advice.  What a huge thing for you to overcome, I don't know if I would have been able to do that.  Ironically, your post and I just watched a domestic violence incident infront of my house happen, made me rethink my decision.  I hate to see harm between two people, but that isn't my intent for him or this other woman.  Infact, my gut tells me they are both having an affair.  They work in the same industry (he is an attorney), but I am not sure if she is or not, it doesn't sound like it..

My intent is not to hurt either one of them, but she should also be aware that he's sleeping around on her.  I'll go with my gut, which kind of says don't do it.  The truth always comes out in the long run though..

Thanks,.

Zygo.

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Strange man and a strange set of circumstances.  I would just walk away breathing a sigh of relief that you caught on sooner than later. ..

As a complete stranger to her, it is not your place to tell her this.  For all you know, they are in an open relationship (thru Match.com) or something.  Also, you had no agreement of exclusivity so he was never "cheating" on you.  Stay out of it and consider yourself lucky you got out when you did.  It's none of your business..

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