Well first dont beat yourself up for this. Just hope you used a condom ).....

Second dont contact him againyou might have to calk this one up a a roll in the hay and you might not want to do it again sees how you have reacted to this. You did nothing wrong. You had fun. Move on.

Third you are confusing actraction for lust. Yes you like him and you may be feeling a lil rejected right now but just let it go. You are not a bad person...

Thanks... that actually made me feel better. and yes, I made triple sure that we used condoms... I just hate it becuase i'm a huge hipocrite. It was really fun and he was so sexy and sweet but I guess you're right.. what's done is done and I have to move on. I just thought I was better than this...it just bugs me now because he probably thinks i'm not worth dating (online dating with Match.com) because i'm a huge slut  who just wanted to roll around in bed for a few hours.....

Remember we are human beings with human needs and sometimed they are animalistic needs. I have done it  a few times and I dont regret it. It was FUN!!! Sometimes I think we go into things expecting something to go a certain way and when they dont we get disapointed. Just because you did something you feel is bad doesnt mean you are bad...it just menas you discovered something new and it didnt turn out the way you wanted. )..

Hi ebeatle,I don't necessarily think it was a mistake. But you need to stop beating yourself up... and at some point, if you never hear from him again, you may need to accept that he's not interested in anything more than sex and forgive yourself. There's not much you can do now to influence whether or not he wants to date using Match.com you, you've already contacted him so what you need to do now is let him make the next move if he's going to and in the meantime, move your life forward. Don't make yourself exclusive to him. You shouldn't have to contact a guy twice, if he's interested he'll eventually answer.

Don't wait. Just keep moving forward. He'll catch up and start running alongside you if that's what he really wants...

Don't contact him again, he has your details so he will call you if he is interested.  Men definitely pursue what they want.  Yes, it is always better to wait to have sex, but what is done is done and I know plenty of people who have slept with a guy on the first date using Match.com and gone on to have a relationship (thru Match.com) with them.  I also know many women who have slept with a guy on the first date using Match.com and then never heard from them again. .

Take a 'what will be will be' attitude and move on with your life. .

Best wishes,.

Coolas..

I don't think you should beat yourself up, either.  We're human, we do things we probably wish we hadn't, or have mixed feelings about.  I know I do.  However, reading your email to him, I feel the opposite of the other posters.  The email avoided what really happened and in a round about way seemed to be proposing more of the same.  So my take is that if he is a serious minded guy, he would think that email isn't.  I think if you really like the guy and want a real shot with him, you're going to have to lay some of your feelings on the line.  I don't have a lot of dating (online dating with Match.com) experience, but that's what works for me.  Best...