"What can I do or how will I know if I am actually the one that she truly desires".

 Just ask her...

Hi mrinluv,.

Welcome to the board!!.

I know how hard it is when you are falling for someone and things start to change.  I've experienced this.  It was hard, but I worked up the nerve and just asked him if we were okay.  Come to find out he was just extremely busy and I nothing to worry about.  He just needed a little more time to finish stuff up.  Maybe having the ex's come around reminded her of all those old feelings.  Hey she's human, and I'm sure she will remember why they are ex's.  Try not to be worried about them coming up.  As for knowing if she wants you - you have to ask and you will know when the right time to ask comes around..

Good Luck,.

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Yes she is comlpete and healthy. Very independant. She is going to college for a degree in pyhisical therapy and she has a 3 rd. shift job and she has raised two boys on her own since 2002. I can't imagine her not being ready to settle down.  I really hurt her feelings the other night when I told her something. I was only being open and honest with her, I felt that she would have been proud of my truthfulness and in same regards so happy.

I told her no, I can't do that , that I am in love with and dating (online dating with Match.com) someone is very special to me. Well now my girlfriend that I want so much has not talked to me all weekend. She says she needs her space and wants to be alone. I hope with Easter Dinner together that things will be on the mend. I think I know that she cares alot about me she told me she has fallen in love with me but now I don't know, because the last time she told me she loved me first was on Valentines over the phone while she was driving to work and thanking me for her diamond necklace.

Thanks, I just want answers and she just quit talking with me. She starts to say things then she stops and changes the subject...

Yeah, that was pretty tactless and unnecessary to tell her thatunless there's a history with the other woman and that's why you felt she needed to know what had happened?  You should just DO the right thing, not have to talk about it, KWIM?.

But, that said, her giving you the silent treatment is not exactly what I would call mature and healthy.  If she's not talking to you, I'm not sure how this is going to work..

Sheri.

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"I felt that she would have been proud of my truthfulness and in same regards so happy. But I told her there is this other gal who wanted me to stay with her one night. I told her no, I can't do that , that I am in love with and dating (online dating with Match.com) someone is very special to me. Well now my girlfriend that I want so much has not talked to me all weekend.".

That is called over exposure and women do not wish to hear about every other woman in the world who makes a pass at you or other women who you find attractive.  We dont want to hear it.  Would youlike that rubbed in your face?  I dont think so...