Your question was: There is a girl on match.com and I want to e-mail her but I dont want to buy the service.anyone help.

I would wait a little while. But I will say that right now his affections for you are almost entirely physical in nature, even if he didn't pout when you wouldn't have sex with him. Look at what he's saying and what he's doing, everything points to physical attraction thus far.Of course it's possible that he really likes you and is open to the possibility of a relationship. I just think it's pretty soon to be pushing the relationship (thru Match.com) talk, because that's generally what happens when you've been dating (online dating with Match.com) long enough to know you both really want a relationship (thru Match.com) with one another specifically.Take a few more dates at least to figure this out, he may even bring it up sooner than you do...

It is perfectly acceptable to ask what he wants out of life and relationships in general, but way too soon to ask about this specifically regarding you...

Im not too sure I see what eggbertshootseggs was saying with teh all physical thing........

 Dont get me wrong we were talking all night at the club and his house, deep intelligent conversations.. I probably made it sound like we were paws all over eachother all freaking night LOL but seriously we were really talking it had been a while since we saw eachother....

I did not mean to ask him specifically about ME and a relationship, or have the "relationship talk" lol no way.

I was just saying like is it ok to ask him in a General sense...like, "are you into relationships at this point of your life or just into having fun?" something like that....

What do you think?.

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From what you'd written I got a very "physical" sense from what he was saying and doing... If you say that's not the case I'd believe you..

Thanks HEHE sometimes it's hard to articulate things across a message board =p.

I think next time I talk to him.......(if infact he ever calls LOL which I think he will he was never bogus to me in the past when we were friends) I'm going to casually ask about his outlook on life and relationships in genral, just in general conversation =)..

You are showing signs of desperation and it will show through to him.  You have just started dating (online dating with Match.com) and you are wondering about the future?  Way, way to soon.  Get to know each other and just have fun..

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My next door neighbor.

Wants to ban all guns.

THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.

Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.

Them with my guns..

AHAHAHHAAHAHHAAHHAHAAHHAA.

Desparation??????????????????????.

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All I said was is it ok to bring up in GENERAL CONVERSATION what his stand is on that issue (long term /casual, etc)  nothing to do wiht ME specifically. I would never do something as RASH as that. Geesh.  Not wondering about the "future". .

Think your jumping to conclusions here Yankee. but thannks anyways..

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I would never do something as RASH as that, good.

 Good Luck whatever you decide to do..

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My next door neighbor.

Wants to ban all guns.

THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.

Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.

Them with my guns..

Yes actions count the most. So note his carefully. But also it has been a short time and you don't want to pressure him prematurely..

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Wait for after a few lunch or dinner dates then see if he acts the same way, and see if he's still attracted to you vice versa. test the waters.. but do ask him before you get more emotionally attached.  It looks like it's going in the right direction good luck..

I agree. You want to compare life philosophies and goals to see commonalities and departures but way to soon to make this a pressure filled - "so, do you see us getting serious?" kind of thing.

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I think next time I talk to him.......(if infact he ever calls LOL which I think he will he was never bogus to me in the past when we were friends) I'm going to casually ask about his outlook on life and relationships in genral, just in general conversation =) >>.

You are still putting the  cart before the horse - this is the kind of stuff you find out during the course of conversations during the dating (online dating with Match.com) process. Go out on a couple of dates first and use that time to find these things out. This will be more natural and therefore, not put him on teh spot - and whenyou are face to face, you can get a better sense of his body language than you can on the phone.

Be clear on what YOU WANT first, then see what he's about. Then you can make a better judgement on how to proceed..

Toni..