We have been together a couple of years. Part of the problem, I think, is that he lived in that house with his ex (there for 10 years, married 18, apart then divorced 3). If he is over, her having me there should not worry him. I understand divorce can make you afraid to commit again, especially if it hit you very hard...

Maybe you should just continue dating (online dating with Match.com) until he is ready for you to officially move in, 100% of the time??  In that case, it would probably be a good idea to put a reasonable time limit on it, being that you have dated for a couple years already. .

On a practical level, maintaining two households and moving back and forth every week would just be too much of a hassle...

That is crazy.  He needs to decide is He all in or not there is no 50% mark to living together.  I think You need to figure out what You want if if involves marriage DO NOT move in with Him until He can make more of a commitment to You.  If You are cool with just living together than so be it but it still needs to be Your there 100% of the time or not.  What ever happened in His past has absolutely nothing to do with You..

Good Luck!..

He wants you to live there for half a week? Huh? Why don't the two of you try some couples counseling to go over fears, patterns, etc....

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You don't say how long the two of you have been seeing each other or what your relationship (thru Match.com) histories are so it makes it harder to be more specific advice wise.

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