Your question was: What is your experience with Internet dating sites like Match.com and americansingle, yahoo personal.

Im sorry if it's just me but your post is so confusing and if your supposed relationship (thru Match.com) is as confusing as your post I think you need to break it off.  Neither of you sound as if you are really mature enough for a serious relationship.  Honey, definitely do not buy him that expensive of a gift, your intuition is telling you he will get the jersey and run, you are most likely right.  End this now..

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My next door neighbor.

Wants to ban all guns.

THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.

Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.

Them with my guns..

To make it shorter, We had a fall out and he dropped me then his friends told him how much he screwed up by loosing me and how great I treated him and they told him that I was getting him the jersey for Christmas then the next day he calls me asking me to talk to him face to face about everything. He is now telling me that he wants to be with me and he screwed up and hes sorry he hurt me it will never happen again and how he is always thinking about me and he is really getting caught up in me and is really getting feelings for me and his friend told me to be careful cuz it seemed like he changed his whole perspective on me when he found out I was buying him the jersey. I just don't want to be used! Its either that he is trying to play me and ditch me right after Christmas or he is being hard in front of his friends to not seem like a wimp but when he is with me he is telling me the truth about how he really feels!! How do I find out if he is being real with me or playing me??..

How do I find out if he is being real with me or playing me?? did you not read any of the responses?  I bet if you told him you were not buying him the jersey he would leave you again or not come back to you.  He dumped you!!!!!  Move on.  Why would you want to be with a man that does that to you?  Why do you want all the drama?  Find a nice man and move on..

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My next door neighbor.

Wants to ban all guns.

THEIR HOUSE IS UNARMED.

Out of respect for their opinion I will not protect.

Them with my guns..

Don't buy him the jersey. You just got back together (are you even officially boyfriend-girlfriend again or just talking?), and so an extravagant gift would not be appropriate. Buy him a nice card and a small gift (maybe a CD) that is more appropriate for where you two are in your relationship. If he really wants to be with you for you, he'll be happy. If he tries to give you a guilt trip for not buying him the jersey, then you will know you did the right thing in not buying it for him because he shouldn't make you feel that way. There's always time in the future, if things go well and you two stay strong, for bigger gifts...

We were never official and No we are not official yet either. Last night when we spent the night together he was very affectionate and very romantic I stood my ground and didn't let anything but when woke up to go to work this morning he did not want me to leave he wanted me to stay with him and he was telling me that he got me something so special and something he made as well for me and he cannot wait! He also was asking me if he was to ask me to be his girlfriend what would I say and do I want him to be my boyfriend and I told him maybe. He goes maybe is not an answer so I said "then you will have to wait to see what my answer will be when you ask me the question" and he told me that he wanted to be with me in any way possible. I told him that I was not going to get him the jersey because like I said his boy told him I was getting it for him when we were fighting so I came straight out and said well since you messed up my Christmas present for you because you know what it is and it wont be a surprise anymore I'm going to have to figure out something else to ge you and at first he was playing stupid like I don't know what your getting me I have an idea but I don't know and I told him to straight up not lie to me and he goes "ya I know what you were going to get for me but I want it so bad and I cant believe you were going to get me that so I stepped up and went more out for you but I don't want to lie to you because I just want to be with you and I don't want to hurt you again I'm so sorry for what I did and it will never happen again" So idk what to believe! I'm being cautious but I will not get him the jersey I'm getting him something else and if anything his birthday is in May we will see how things go from here and if they last and if they do he will get it in may..

Good for you for not buying the jersey!I've got to say though, if I was you I would walk away from this relationship. A few things stood out in your latest post.* He says he wants to be with you in any way possible, but note he has not asked you to be his girlfriend. * He tried to lie about knowing about the jersey because he was trying to manipulate you into still getting it for him (he was trying to counter your argument that you weren't going to get it because he already knew about it.) * When he realized the lie wasn't working, he told you that he was treating you nicer because he really wanted the jersey. That is, he really wanted the gift not you and so was stepping it up. This is also his way of trying to manipulate you by saying that he has been good to you so he deserves this jersey. (Which is of course ridiculous.)* Then he ended it playing on your heartstrings by saying he wants you (although he hasn't committed to you).I really would walk away, but at most make sure whatever gift you get him is inexpensive.

Chances are it's just another manipulation tactic, and the bottom line is you have to do what is best for you and best matches the status of the relationship. You can't control what he gets you, but you can control what you get him.)..