Your question was: What should I say when I call?.

Honey, call him and let him know that you're XX, friend of NN, and that you're returning his call. He'll say something along the lines of "Oh, yeah how are you...." and you can follow his lead. If you have something to talk about over the phone and you'd like to meet him ask him to meet you at a coffee shop, restaurant, etc for a quick bite...

Say, I have been thinking about it, and I think I am going to let you take me out. How is saturday, 7 okay? Guys like a girl that takes some initiative....

"Should I try to get to know him on the phone?> you can have a short conversation on the phone and get to know a little about him. I have been able to tell over the phone whether or not a guy was angry and not someone who should be dating (online dating with Match.com) at all, so I was happy I had those conversations with them. It saved both parties a lot of trouble. And then, one day, I ran into one of the guys who I knew should not be dating (online dating with Match.com) (he kept going on and on about the ex wife and the money and the heartache, blah blah) and realized he wouldn't "do it" for me on any level at all. "And if so, what should I say?" > What do you normally talk about when you first meet people? Since you know nothing about him, it will probably require some basic conversation like age, work, where he lives, how is it that he has found himself single, music, you can discuss how funny and awkward these kind of moments are...hehe.Your blind date using Match.com may ask you if you want to meet, so think things could take off on it's own."Or, should I immediately ask him to meet me for a drink? That way I'll know if there is any attraction." >As long as it is not a long distance type deal, and if you are a little nervous but want to meet, you could meet for lunch or brunch. The atmosphere is more casual and eventually you have to leave to go back to work or get started on the rest of your day.

So much has changed out there...

Try to relax a little - there isn't much at stake here. You're just talking to someone who might become a new friend.  Call and say that you've heard nice things about him from your co-worker. You can chat a bit about her - she's the thing you have in common.  Then just chat - what do each of you enjoy doing, movies, etc, and if the conversation is going well the subject of getting together for a drink will doubtless come up.  You can first see if he'll broach it.  Since he called intially, he probably will..

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But no matter what happens you're breaking the ice a bit here in terms of you getting back into the dating (online dating with Match.com) pool so that's a positive!.

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