Your question was: What's the best dating website? Match.com? Yahoo personals? Something else?.

Hi lara129,.

Welcome to the board!!.

I'd say stop betting yourself up and open yourself up to new experiences.  Start with something that doesn't involve dating.  Like trying a new hobby that's always interested you.  Maybe try making a list of what you didn't like about this guy and focus on finding someone how doesn't have those traits..

Good luck,.

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Yes you can, it is not easy, but with time it will happen.  Tell yourself everyday 100 times if necessary that you deserve better, start believing it.  When you accept that it is over and you made the right decision you will start healing. Write in a journal, write UNSENT letters, reconnect with friends, family, find a hobby, start doing things that you have always wanted to do and haven't had a chance to do.  Visit the boards, post when you need to.  Try the breaking up is hard to do board some great resources in the resources section, and Sandra, Carrie, Sheri to name a few have some great insights.  It does get easier, but it just takes time....

This is a time to take care of yourself - be with friends, do things that are nourishing, perhaps see a therapist to help you sort out your feelings, seeing a therapist might be something that can help you sort through your feelings as well....

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Yes, now is a time to focus on yourself, find things that impassion you. Loving yourself whether or not you're with someone is key.  When the time is right you'll find the right someone..

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There were reasons why you broke up with him. You just didnt see him as your "friend for life" You should tell yourself that you did the right thing and that if it's meant to be for you two to be together, then you will find a way to be together on good terms. Not his! You may need to ask yourself this question also... " can I survive without a man in my life?" And the answer is YES! You may have found yourself as a co dependent person while with your ex, but it doesnt mean that you cant start to be independent and have feelings of your own. When sharing a committed relationship (thru Match.com) with someone, you often feel obligated to be in one when you break up. Its as if you NEED someone in your life to be there thru thick and thin.

Like the other ladies have suggested, you should get a hobby. Write, draw, shop, play video games if ya have to LoL Maybe you can do some community service to just help the time go by? There are things that you can do to side track your mind. If in 6 months you are still thinking about this guy and I mean REALLY thinking about him to the point that you know you screwed up? Then try again. Maybe sooner! But I would definatly give yourself some space first to sort it out. Maybe you broke up with him unintentionally and you were just having a bad day and said the wrong thing? Only you will be able to understand why you did it.

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