Your question was: When should he call after the 1st date?.

Well, I've found that the guys who are really interested in me contact me right away after the first date using Match.com (within a day) or even ask me out for a 2nd date using Match.com while we are still on the 1st. So I would say that this guy isn't interested, despite him asking for your number.As far as whether you go out with him if he does eventually call, that's up to you, but at best, he's lukewarm about you if he waits that long.As for the other question, I'm not a stickler for thatif I'm free and interested in seeing the guy, I'll go. But with my schedule, it's not likely that I *will* be free if he waits that long to askmy evenings and weekends tend to fill up. Anyone I'm dating (online dating with Match.com) figures that out pretty quickly ;-).Sheri..

Ok, thanks for the advice. Yeah, I just feel that I don't want to beat around the bush anymore. My last two boyfriends, it took them two weeks to call me after the first few dates, but then we dated for over 2 year....I don't want to wait that long anymore. I think if he calls or sends an email over a week after our initial date, then I'll probably say no.It was just weird though. He acted so "in" to me during the date. Maybe it was a show? Who knows...

I say it is weird too. I dont' know how guys can stand being on a date using Match.com faking it - being into you- if they are not. Maybe he had another date using Match.com after yours some time during the week and decided that the other person was a better fit. The only person that knows for sure is him and he is being a coward by not contacting you...

I know, it's frustrating, isn't it? I've had that happen more times than I can count (and it's happened to many friends too, so I know it's not just me ;-)). The guy acts like he's having a great time, says he'll call and then...nothing. I'll occasionally give in to the urge to "prod" a guy I had a great first meet/date with by sending him an email but even when that results in another date, it always turns out he wasn't ALL that interested and that's why he didn't call in the first place.Sheri..

Ok, this is weird, so everyone he called me on Friday night. Five days after our date. It was on my new cell phone so I didn't have my voicemail set up. I sent a text to the number saying "Hello." he wrote back instanty saying, "hello! how have you been? How are you feeling? What are you up to tonight anything fun..." (i was recovering from mild food poisoning the 1st time I met him). I wrote back that I was better, but in bed, etc. And he again wrote back instantly saying that "Well, glad to hear that! I'm staying in tonight, but I will definitely talk to you soon for sure.

NOTHING. He was probably drunk when he wrote that.Well, I thougtht I had matured in the dating (online dating with Match.com) game after all these years, but I still behave like a schoolgirl when it comes to a guy calling me. lol. I think he was drunk when he called me Friday night. =(..

You did just see him one time so if he does call and there is a very good chance he will, sure go.  And no need to play lots of games - Monday does not have to be the latest to secure a date using Match.com by any means!  But I wouldn't say yes on Friday to a Saturday nite date using Match.com either..

Keep us posted.

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