Your question was: Which is Better Single Dating it's just lunch. Match.com Or Chemistry.com????.

You are making more of it than needs to be. Just ask him if he would be your escort to the wedding - let him decide how he feels about it. If it's too much too soon, you likely will find out in his reply. If he can't because of his move but would otherwise, you'll also find out in his reply. Or he might say yes.  whatever his reply is - accept it graciously.

You can't control what he thinks or feels in any situation - he feels what he feels. And if he isn't around for the long haul, you will find out sooner or later.  If you'd like him to go with you, then you have to ask.

And FWIW, being 'afraid' of his actions is a self defeating stance. Whether he is long term or not has no bearing on your worth..

Toni..

I agree with Toniask him how he would feel about being your date using Match.com and see what he says..

Sheri..

No, it is not too soon at all to ask him to accompany you to the wedding.  Have fun!..

Well he's been asking about the planning, he might think it was weird if you didn't invite him. Say, look I don't want you to think I'm rushing anything between us, we're just getting to know each other but if you're up for the party I'd love you to come. If it feels too soon, that's ok too..

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Thanks for the advice all. I did ask him and he can't make it because of his move & work. But he felt really bad about not being able to go and has promised to make it up to me. He is taking me out for my birthday this weekend. We'll see how well he does. Thanks again!..

<<He is taking me out for my birthday this weekend. We'll see how well he does.>>.

OK, please don't hold this guy so some secret expectation you have of what he SHOULD do for you on your birthday and then get all disappointed if he doesn't live up to these secret expectations that he has no idea he is being judged on!  If you expect something out of him and WILL get upset if he doesn't live up to your dreams, then tell him what you expect rather than letting him suffer the consequences..

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