Your question was: Which is the best online dating agency? Match.com, Dating Direct, etc? UK only?.

Does it really matter? he isn't 'open' to being in a relationship.  let it go and find someone who is. If you force teh issue, you'll cause yourself a lot of unnecessary pain and heart ache. .

Toni..

Many people wont date using Match.com someone because the situation surrounding the person spells trouble.  All it takes is one psycho ex to ruin a relationship (thru Match.com) and the lives of those involved.   I'm sure you dont wish to speak to your ex and normally I would say dont...but you might want to tell him to buzz off and leave your life alone.  If he continues to harass the men you date using Match.com you may have to take further actions to get him out of your life...

Thanks for your comments.

I have told my ex to back off and leave me alone. He was abusive and I have a restraining order against him. My new guy is aware of the whole situation. Until Friday he was very supportive and had been asking me to make a commitment to him. I guess I just don't know what changed in a couple days' time. We had an amazing Valentine's Day and now it's all different.

And it was about this situation.  .

I told him that he needs to stop worrying about what my ex and my ex's friends have to say about us because I don't care what they think about me. I also said that he can choose to become buddies with my ex if he wants but I will not continue to try to pursue anything with him if he does because that is how much I want to avoid having anything to do with my ex..

I didn't try to make it sound like an ultimatum but that is what it seemed like. I just can't let my ex get in the middle of me being happy. That is exactly what is happening. I have known my new guy for about 10 years now and I don't want us to lose our friendship just because this didn't work out.

So I think I am just going to stay single and try to focus on myself first. Maybe then my ex will finally leave me alone...

Hi Baby.j.

Welcome to the board!.

Ex drama SUCKS!!  I'm so sorry that you had to be invovled in an abusive relationship.  I'm impressed that you were/are strong enough to get out of it!!!!.

How long has it been since your break up? and how long have you been dating (online dating with Match.com) your new man?  If it hasn't been very long, you new man might just need some time to process all of this.  I don't mean to just sit and wait, but a little patience might go a long way..

Good Luck,Kristie.

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