Your question was: Why can't I log into match.com account?????????.

Hmm, because he had a weak moment and reached out?  Because he was testing the waters? .

Since it's been 6 months, I'm more concerned about your reaction to him contacting you, then backing away. Lots of people do that during and after a break up..

Carrie..

Well we broke up because I learned something about him that I have always been naive about.  After the break up I learned more about that.  He has other qualities that I like besides what he told me.  He was always flakey as a friend, though...

So he's being true to form - flakey..

What he does or doesn't do, shouldn't be a consideration at this point. IMO.

Carrie..

Oh goodness, you're not going to like this at all..

There could be a million and one reasons why he didn't text you back, one of them being he might have been exceptionally busy, another being he very well could have been with someone he is interested in.  Another thing he could very well be doing since he IS single, is meeting up with hot Brazilian women while he's on vacation.  Point is, you are not in a relationship (thru Match.com) with him, and he owes you no explanation if he doesn't want to give you one.  At this point, you are overreacting to the things and stories you are putting in your own head, and, without just cause.  Since you're not in relationship (thru Match.com) with him, you really have no place to be acting this way..

One call after six months of nothing after a short-lived dating (online dating with Match.com) situation with him that didnt' work out anyway doesn't mean he needs to call you the moment he gets back, or right before he leaves, much less while he's away..

I'm concerned, like Carrie is more about your reaction tohis than about him being somewhat flaky.  I'm also VERY concerned that after six months of no contact, you admit you've been chasing him even now..

It's time to refocus on yourself.  Good luck,.

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CL-Breaking Up Is Hard to Do.

CL-Understanding Men.

CL-Ask the dating (online dating with Match.com) Doyenne.

We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. Tom Robbins..

Ok, whatever. I really posted to get the weight and anxiety off my shoulders.  It was too late to call my closest friend because she has little children who go to bed early..

And it's not like I pulled his teeth to make him ask me out. All I said was "I can't be your friend anymore because I know you don't feel the same" (which he was starting to).

But whatever, put your own spin on it.....

I'm still laughing about trying to get through this week and next week or maybe however long it takes to get over him.  And my mom is so right: Emails and message boards take the fun out of phone convos because you can't hear the tone of the person's voice, i.e. whether they are joking or serious - my post was meant to be fun.

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Edited 9/17/2008 9:15 pm ET by luvs2run..